Playing With Children

Childhood is a period where they learn about the world through play. Facilities as well as playing a bridge between what is in their fantasy of nature with what (could) they embodied. Children do not see the game as "played" as the elderly or adults see play is something that is not real. Children who are smaller are considered to play a reality as well as adults to work, school, cleaning house, etc.. Play is a world where they are and give meaning to everything they encounter in the game.
In a play, children can learn to recognize what they can do themselves and which ones need to help parents. Children learn to measure and quantify the ability of self-challenge. In fact, according to research by Lewis (2000), children aged 1-6 years to learn to develop problem solving skills of play, because play presents a variety of contexts and situations should they hadapai on the spot. Through play, children find creative ways and unique in addressing the problem.
Actually, if summarized, there are many benefits of play for children, in addition to those already mentioned above. A study conducted over a period of many years found that when a small child (age 4) likes to play blocks or Legos, while highschool showed higher math skills.

Problem In PlayToday, the play becomes less meaningful and less useful, and even too many disadvantages. What is wrong with this play?A. It is not clear goal we often see children who are playing just for killing time, spend time, either because of lack of activity or waiting for a parent, driver or pick. The problem, for killing time favorite game is the game or the like are available on mobile or smartphone, iPad, and so on. Some are good, but more destructive, as the bloody game, hit, punch, shoot, shot, which makes the players happy when I can kill as the only solution and get the greatest reward.
In Journal of Adolescence 27 (2004) 5-22 contains the results of research on the impact of hostile video games teens. As the game the "most popular" of this century, the game turned out to make adolescents more hostile hostile, aggressive and rude, in arguing with a teacher / authority figure and more often involved in physical fights and make the learning achievement deteriorated. Phenomenon in Indonesia today, the little children of primary school age are in kindergarten and even expose the hostile games through games and TV. With these findings, one can imagine what will become of the children of our future.
2. Not according to the medium and the needs of childrenWe see a lot of outstanding game no matter which age category, which sells essential. In fact, the game was hostile to adults. Similarly, TV shows, even though it's Popeye film Mr Bean or even Tom and Jerry, Sponge Bob, Bart Simpson, the films show a lot of plot, plot, or events that are not suitable to be consumed young children are in the process formation of value. The films were actually miniature adults, so that eventually the children actually become miniature adults because it mimics a cartoon character on TV who made the style of the mind (and his delinquency) adults.
3. There is no engagement or involvementOften happens, the children were told to play and the game so as not to disturb or bother an adult / parent. Some parents are reluctant to play with children, being busy, or does not connect with their children because of differences in the world who do not (want to) dive.
Baby sitter or Ms., it is not always the type who are willing and able to dive into the world of the child, due in part to consider the main task is to maintain and serve in a literal sense. When the game is done not with the heart, then the play becomes more bland. In the vapidity that is, do not wake sebenanarnya sensitivity and empathy that can be honed through play. As a result children are easily bored and easily frustrated. In contrast, in the Engaging game, there will be two-way open discussion of possible solutions. Playing cars, police-police, fire, cook, cooking, all the "ordinary" life and can be interesting if the players involved in emotion and of course, fantasy. Without the involvement of body and soul, expensive game was not necessarily able to bring meaning and the terrible impact on children.
Edward Fisher, a psychologist found a link between playing with the development of language skills. He found that playing a role play, enhance the ability of social cognitive and affective-linguistic children. That's why playing with your heart to be important to create an atmosphere of play and fun living.

Constraints Kids To PlaySome things children often become obstacles in the play, is the lack of play areas such as the place field and the grass is now very rare, especially for urban children. Means that the game can be enjoyed and used the public was hardly available, except to the arena to play in the mall and have to pay. In addition to the above issues, there is a more crucial constraint and there is substantial because of the obstacles in front of the eye and occur almost every day unnoticed by parents. Constraints that can be termed as an inhibitor, namely:
A. Parental fears"Beware of falling!", "No, not just be up-up", "alert can slip you know". Many parents voiced phrase when being with their children in public places. Parents are overprotective attitude, make a less confident child and dependent. Anxiety and fear of parents read by children as an expression of their distrust of the ability of children to overcome the situation. Thus the mechanism, when parents do not believe the child, the child eventually doubts and questioning their ability. Furthermore, the child will limit themselves before they explore the possibility and ability, before They Reach Their upper limit. This is the source of inferiority and low self-esteem.
 2. ValueValue that is owned and is believed to affect the child's parents. For example, there are calls for "boy-not the food, I'll be a homo". While the concept of homo himself out of reach of children's minds are still innocence. "My daughter really climb, climb, come down, you're not a boy". Some parents consider educating children should be hard and the child should be limited as the family tradition. These parents will hinder the process of exploration of the child against him and the world and its future.
3. Ego"Do not play on the beach, summer, later mama so black" or "Watching the show mama alone, more exciting than watching cartoons" or "Ma'am Main at it, papa was busy ya, this is more important because". Without realizing it, the needs and wishes of parents raced to the needs of children, to be realized. The situation is actually put into childish parents and put into an older child because the child which ultimately succumb to their parents.

What will happen?If allowed, the process of learning by doing and experiencing become obstructed because of constrained variety of things. Meanwhile, there are many tasks to be executed by the development of our children in order pengembangkan various components is crucial to the process of growth, maturity and success of their lives in the future. Components are:Survival skills, the ability to survive and come out a winner in life, able to control life and not allow themselves to be victims of circumstance.The ability of empathy, the ability to understand the situation, feelings, difficulties, limitations and humanity of others, as it understands itselfThe ability to manage emotions, the ability to process feelings, to have a proper sense of intuition and discernmentAdaptability, the ability to adjust to the surrounding environment as well as new thingsAbility to grow, the ability to continue to seek and to growth, to get out of a sense of comfort (comfort) to find something better.Recovery and reconstruction capability, ability to rise from failure, learning from failure and repairIntrinsic ability to search, looking for true virtue, the ability to distinguish, what is primarily and foremost in this life, what a dream and a call later life.The ability to build the infrastructure, the ability to adopt and internalize the sublime values ​​that became the foundation of behaving and acting.
Playing With Asik solutionTo any time, the child will need to play, therefore, presents a challenge to play the game and the quality is a challenge for modern parents. Solution to play in modern times is not too difficult to run even though plagued arena and facilities. All of that is the number 2, the most important is the involvement of parents (and caregivers), the relationship between parent and child and parents or guardians with the creativity of children to play. Basically all creative children, but adults often lost creativity and lost interest as well as the power of fantasy to play to the rhythm of the child. There are some prerequisites to pursue the game is fun and quality:Remove the desire "Keep Image". Keep your child's image to increase the distance so there is no chemistry that makes the play come alive atmosphere.Remove the idealism and judgment. Idealism and judgment make us tend to judge everything and eventually lose interest to play because everything is measured wear glasses and assessment of "what anybody else"Make an effort. Many games are cheap and cool can be done if we as adults want to attempt it first. For example, want to play while doing a simple experiment at home, then the parent or chaperone will need to prepare the ingredients, assisted by the involvement of the child to wake up early. Without effort, then the game is cheap and educate not be realized.Move. Many simple games that can be realized if we want to move. The problem today is to move adults tend to be lazy, but spent more time on the computer, mobile phone or television or other smartphone.Get used. Make the play with a child becomes a habit and needs of both parties. Emotional bond be tied into its own when we give ourselves completely as children give themselves entirely on "that very moment". Bond is the one who will make the parent-child relationship into an open relationship and mutual respect, mutual understanding and support; parents and children is a team.
  Some types of games that solutifCreating a simple scientific experiment, with the materials available at home. This experimental game is not only fun but also educational.Playing musical instruments with kitchen equipment or objects other safe. Make your own music is also fun tools and can be used continuously.Playing with bottles and bowling ballPlaying basketball with a bucket and hung a light bulbPlaying badmintonGuess the word or puzzlePlay a role such as fire, a picnic to the zoo, the coast guard police, traffic police, little chef, etc.Lego playing, chess, snakes and ladders and monopoly as well as other similar games. We can make your own snakes and ladders or monopoly with a more interesting challenge.Treasure hunting, by drawing their own maps and hid some treasure in the corners of the house .. This game can be played as a group, perfect for a holiday or party.Make a cake, which does not require a fire and a stove, or aided adults during bakingArt and craft with scrap materials, such as tissue box unused, dry leaves, etc.Planting and maintaining plants in poly bags and petPlaying with a magnifying glass to see objects closerJump rope or play traditional games like congklak, jacks ball, etc.Outdoor play such as swimming, bike, skate, skate board, to practice climbing trees (if there is a tree that can be climbed).Many games can be done, but it all takes effort and willpower, especially from the parents or caregivers. One thing to note also, that basically if the parents participate in the games their children, parents will also feel a great benefit for the body and soul. Play for adults is also useful to revive the energy, treating stress, foster creativity, hopes and dreams, overcome loneliness and grief, and increase the durability and life pressure. There are many other benefits of play for adults. Therefore, for those who still have small children at home, play with the chemistry that exists in order to build up positive energy for both parties and establish the character of children who are more confident and positive.