encounter Traumatic

Given that there is a proper part of the disaster we call the secret of God, then maybe it's time we need to remember the sage advice that does something like is this: if there is a tragedy, trial, or any event which we have left grief, misery, and misery that does not make us die, then there still exists a part that we can choose to strengthen ourselves.

Referring to the above advice, then what is our common task is to find any material that could show us to be a brighter, become stronger, or minimize a person who is made worse by the state is obviously aggravate us.

Problems in Inner

Whether we are sure no one dared to say the earthquake and tsunami that hit the storm of our brothers is lightweight and can be immediately accepted as a fact that actually happened. Let alone against calamity that semaha-menacing (extraordinary). Nature of the calamity that ordinary (ordinary) and routine, such as failure, disappointment and uncertainty, we generally can not receive it directly. Often there are events that the expert is called emotional outbursts in the form of first refusal of the things we do not want to happen.

However, because of something that has happened it is a fact, then accepted or rejected in the end still have occurred. Therefore, it is the difference between the per person is the speed of the pull-out of keterhanyutan and darkness. Anything that makes us too long often washed away into the darkness of calamity? That often occurs between us is:

A. Extend the rejection

With what we prolong the rejection? Usually, we extended the rejection by creating an emotional outburst in the second in the same shape as the first outbursts or rejection of the second, third, the thousandth, and so on. To get around that we should not take too long to add resistance to rejection of the expert psychologist, Denis Waitley, for example, it suggests three things: a) stop the desire within us to change something that can not be changed anymore; b) start to change what can still be changed and c) the anticipation of things that maybe we will reject again.

Another suggestion that we should also emphasize again within us is the opinion which invites us to let something that is outside our control and we are shifting the focus of the effort to seize the responsibility to do something that is still in the area of ​​our control so we are minimum is not even made worse by the things that aggravate us. Gratitude - gratitude we become stronger or brighter again

2. Wisdom demands

Religious understanding is common to us is that all the misfortune to have a purpose. This is in accordance with scriptural explanation that suggests that all acts of God (the act of God) or all of which God allowed to happen must contain a specific purpose. Every misery that befell there must be a benefit in kind (equivalent benefit).

If the wisdom and usefulness of its certainty, then what are the bottlenecks? The problem is that often it is the same wisdom as the final response from our efforts. Though certainly, but he is often given in the form of art (art) aka not like summing Mathematics theory. Some are given by way of fine, given in part, given at the end, is given directly, given through the hands of other people we love, given from the hands of others who have not we met before, or given of the way we usually do not like teorikan. Often the things that make us faster experience mental fatigue is waiting just to wait for the tone dictate or demand (acceleration demand or according to our will). That is why we are commanded to-use utility to create a positive or endeavor to explore the benefits are worth it or if you need more and as much as possible.

3. Destructive protests

The emergence of a tone burst of protest, secretly or openly the wisdom of God, although often considered to violate the laws of Theology, but the practice can be experienced by anyone. However, in practice there are subtle distinction that can create large differences in results between our protests that exacerbate a vent for ourselves and vent our protest at the rise of encouragement, advancement and power. The first protests that at times even slow recovery and inhibitor of enlightenment.

Anthony Robbins admitted that the secret of success in achieving high performance from the very bottom of the stairs is the protest-suicide by using adversity as a driving force for creating positive change. Felice Leonardo Buscaglia once wrote that the change is the result of learning. Changes can be made of three things: a) use the discontent over what happened to us today, b) a decision to change to meet resistance, and c) awareness of devoting themselves to the change process. Prophetic doctrine teaches us to get up immediately by way of protesting the self (self-Rebellion) or send us to rise up after the collapse by beating case / adverse event (protest building)

Receive struggle

Explained that the doctrine of faith to receive mental attitude is the main pillar. Scientific studies have explained that to receive a road to be able to learn and change. It would be difficult for us to study the usefulness and change what can still be changed without the aid of acceptance. Alexander Graham Bell had warned us not too long staring at the closed door that we could see another door was opened. As a self-learning, below is one of those moments that we can do to speed up the withdrawal and improve models of acceptance that we do:

A. Sharpen the Infinite Intelligence

Napoleon Hill says that faith is an Infinite Intelligence (The infinitive Intelligence). Keimananlah are able to penetrate the understanding, meaning and purpose behind the facts or the reality of the visible (magical objects). Keimananlah that make us feel no guarantee of security and peace of God with a sense of togetherness. Keimananlah which enables us to say that we are destined to live as long as there would be no problem that can make us die.

However, this belief would have been a variety of ratings, so we need to raise: No faith in the mouth (speech only), there is a belief in a half-half (depending on external circumstances), and there is real faith. According Cak Nur, how can we take to have real faith is perfected at any time based on the knowledge, experience and the fact that we understand.

2. Improving System Solutions

The problem is not completed by the faith. Our problem will be completed by a series of actions. But with faith will make us confident and bright during the process of solving problems. Confidence and clarity is what we need because they have a relationship with what we might call "self-proving"

As long as we still have not left the earth must have been there always exist a bid to prove who we are, above all bids in the form of the things we do not want from the start that its unusual to offer such an exceptional nature that befell our brethren.

Examples of evidence that such self it this way. When we hit a storm, we must have been a frenzy with all kinds of thoughts. After the storm passed then all that remains is to choose between the bids we chose to drift and chose to rise. Whatever we choose certainly has its own justification. However, the evidence that akhinya who we are: 1) evidence that we are devastated by the storm (loser), or 2) proof that we beat the storm (winner).

Because we want is to become the second group, then all we need is to improve the system of settlement of the problems we face in accordance with our progress so that we can have other forms of self-evidence that the longer the better by doing something that needs improvement, change positive, and renewal. "Trauma to be immortal in us is the suffering that we do not follow the change ourselves into a positive direction."

3. Raising Expectations

All religions are taught to hope, only to God. The way that we can do for hope here is to have expectations as high as the position of God (optimism) so we do not dissolve easily contrived, drift, run and darkened by the reality on earth that can change at any time and not everything can be explained by reasoning or our knowledge .

In addition, it also serves as an optimistic expectation energizer (locomotion) we step in solving the problem, turn, builds and fix things up. With high expectations did not lead automatically to make us win, but if without hope, we've lost before you proceed. Hopefully we can run.