Narcissist, confident or Arrogant?

The story of Narcissus
The story of the conqueror in Boetia Thespiae region endowed beauty, Narcissus, Narkissos or the Cult of Self
Some versions of the story of Narcissus in part by Ovid in 'Echo'. Narcissus was hunting deer in the woods feel thirsty and get water in a river, but he could not touch it for fear of damaging water shadows on the water surface. Narcissus died staring at his own reflection and Narcissus flower grew where he died.
But Pausanias (geographer and a traveler from Egypt, lived in the second century AD) rejected the story of someone who is not able to distinguish a real man and shadow, according to Narcissus fell in love with his twin sister, who was wearing the same clothes with the Narcissus when hunting in the woods. When his twin brother died, Narcissus was devastated and thought he saw a shadow on the water surface it is his twin brother (www.wikipedia.com).
We who live in big cities in Indonesia certainly will not be able to take water in the river to drink, not because there is a stunning image, to be sure. But today we do not need the river to the mirror, because our self-image become more and more clear, thick and concrete, covering the essence of self that even less clear.
There is a narcissist who thinks that it sucks and adjacent to the narcissist feels uncomfortable because the atmosphere is full of competition, pride, etc. regardless of this narcissistic people from the outside looks have great confidence. It is interesting to look further understanding of this narcissistic, because in clinical psychology the term is also known Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In common parlance, the narcissist is the one who makes himself the center of everything.
The narcissist Becomes Believes his own world and the whole world is him
(Theodore I. Rubin)
He has an excess judgment on him in an extra large scale, so unsettling, disturbing social life around him. However, this narcissistic symptoms can also apply in the wider community. In order not always guess, it helps us see the definition of theoretical and empirical studies in psychology.

Narisisisme in the study of psychology
Narcissistic personality dimensions derived from the criteria of narcissistic personality disorder, but the narcissism that we discussed this time intended for individuals who are still able to function normally in society.
Narcissists characterized by a highly positive or inflated self-concept. Narcissists use a range of intrapersonal and interpersonal strategies for maintaining positive self-views. (Campbell, Rudich, & Sedikies, 2002)
We see in the narcissistic keywords are: overly inflated self-concept. Alexander Lowen in his Narcissism: Denial of the True Self said that psychologically, people are said to be narcissistic if you devote all your efforts to build the image at the expense of yourself. They often deceive themselves for the sake of appearances.
Narcissist are more concerned with how rather than They Appear What They feel. They deny That feeling indeed contradict the image They seek. (Alexander Lowen, 1985)
Inflated self-concepts of the narcissist is also evident from their portraits as described by Lowen (1985), that their actions often without a second thought and felt, manipulative, selfish, power hungry and want to drive, not honest in bringing themselves and have no integrity.

Overview of the self-esteem
Overlap between narcissistic and self-esteem. Often people misinterpret definitions between the two. Clearly, narcissism is a threat and damage because of the self-assessment form that is not realistic, rational and proportionate, while self-esteem (in levels proportional and rational / realistic) actually beneficial. Self-esteem is the degree of individual judgment on himself. Individuals with high self-esteem and sense will judge him positively. In interaction with others, it is usually self-confident, and tend to lead to a person who appeared and the leader of the group.
Ironically, individuals who have low self-esteem view themselves less. This lack of feeling, be real, could be the perception of himself alone. It may be that he really does have the ability and the brightest in a particular skill; but at the same time lose their confidence.

Self-defeating behavior
Literature studies have demonstrated the behavior of narcissistic individuals as arrogant, demeaning others, respond to ego threats with violence and aggressiveness, creating an internal attribution for success (a success because of the greatness of the self) and vice versa when faced with an external attribution of failure (failure due to fault the environment / outside the self itself), as well as assessing the future despite facing excessive conditions that do not support / enabling.
Narcissistic individuals is also not liked by peers / group (although usually has created a positive impression of yourself) who feel psychologically harmed (Colvin, Block, & Funder, 1995 in Vazire & Funder, 2006).
"In short, as They yearn and reach for Self-Affirmation,
[Narcissists] destroy the very relationships on the which They are dependent "(Vazire & Funder, 2006).

Narsisime in social life
One characteristic of the narcissist is excessive attitude in assessing himself. These excess properties are dragging themselves to undermine social cohesion and distort attitudes towards the future related to the estimate (estimate and read the success of the plan).
Several studies dealing with narcissistic psychology associated with social interaction describes the majority of unhealthy relationships and distorted, corrupted because of this character, among them; fantasies about fame or power (Raskin & Novacek, 1991 in Campbell, et al 2002), responding to criticism by anger and self-attribution of achievement (Campbell, Reeder, Sedikides, & Elliot, 2000; Far-well & Wohlwend-Lloyd, 1998; Rhodewalt & Morf, 1996 in Campbell et al 2002), also condescension of people deemed threatening (Kernis & Sun , 1994 in Keith, 2002). Narcissistic also less able to maintain the commitment and focus in interaction with others (Campbell, 1999; Campbell & Foster, 2001 in Campbell et al, 2002).
In the development of a dynamic social environment, sometimes we often hear the term narcissistic rather shifted from its true meaning. Narcissistic in slang, referring to the style of humor among individuals who work to foster self-confidence and positive self-assessment, both on the subject or the other. And as has been discussed before, that the narcissist has a benchmark that is not rational, proportional in assessing themselves, both individually and in social interaction.
Narcissistic individual picture above does not mean hard to find in our social environment. These people are better known as a proud people, who tend to be selfish, to save himself, not caring even less sensitive to other people. His manner was far from pleasant even do violence (such as verbal abuse) in order to protect his ego felt threatened.
But narcissism is not just the characters visible in a short time. Perhaps one clue is the lightning, when it finds people with renyahnya debilitates others to elevate himself in the conversation. Certainly not just the feel of a sentence, but also of attitude and body language. People are touchy and irritable when in love advice, especially in the scolds.
These characteristics are well known in the theory of ingroup-outgroup in which one of the ways to elevate the group is by putting other groups. In fact, this is related to the self-esteem self (group) is low so desperately need others to be humbled / crushed so that he (the group) to get the feeling the impact of better, higher.
Questions for homework (PR), are we often meet people like this, or we who narcissistic human being in our environment? What about our social group, our nation?