Definition, Causes and How to Overcome Temper Tantrum

Psychologyx- Definition, Causes and How to Overcome Temper Tantrum
Understanding the behavior of angry temper tantrums in preschool children. They express their anger by lying on the floor, kicking, screaming, and sometimes hold their breath. Tantrums are a natural, occurs in children who have not been able to use words to express their frustration, because the non-fulfillment of their wishes.

Quoted Colorado State University Extension, R.J. Fetsch and B. Jacobson said that tantrums usually occur at the age of 2 to 3 years when children form a sense of self. Toddlers do not quite understand the word "I" and "wants her" but it's very easy to know how to satisfy what they want. Tantrums are the result of high energy and ability that is insufficient in expressing a desire or need "in the form of words".

Tantrums usually occur at the age of 2 and 3 years, will begin to decline at age 4 years. They usually have it within a year. 23 to 83 percent of children ages 2 to 4 years have had temper tantrums.

Most of the children throw tantrums at certain places and with certain people. They will usually do this when they know there is no prohibition "no" to something he wants to do. When other family members respond with rudeness and tantrums even hit, then the problem will increase. Tantrum usually stops when the child gets what he wants. Levels of child anger child depends on how the amount of energy and patience are also parents.

There are many reasons why temper tantrums. Some causes are indicators of family problems: inconsistent discipline, criticize too much, parents who are overprotective or neglectful, children do not have enough love and attention from their parents, problems with marriage, interruption of play, both for the emotional problems of parents , meeting strangers, rivalry with a brother or sister, have problems with speech, and disease or illness. Other common causes include hunger or fatigue.

Children who are angry often have other problems such as thumb sucking, head banging, wetting the bed and have trouble sleeping. If this behavior occurs, or if your child is angry more than 15 minutes or occur more than three times a day, get help from an expert such as a child psychologist.

Parents can learn how to maintain and effectively enforce discipline. Too permissive with a loose discipline made all things must be fulfilled. Conversely, too authoritarian parenting is not good, try to use one-time parenting styles with more listening to the voice of children. Authoritarian parenting style is a style of parenting that do not recognize the rights of children. The point is balance in the care, discipline when parents need to act and when to listen to the wishes and rights of children.

Quoted from Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, the following are the most precise instructions on how to cope with and benefit temper tantrums:

    Stay calm.
    Keep doing your activity. Ignore the child until he is calm and show the rules that have been agreed.
    Do not hit your child. Better held her in his arms until he was calm.
    Try to find a reason for your child's anger.
    Do not give in to anger child. When parents give in, children learn to use the same behavior when they want something.
    Do not coax your child to return the other to stop the anger. Children will learn to get rewards.
    Point your child's attention on something else.
    Remove objects that your child from potentially harmful.
    Give praise and recognition when the tantrum behavior has been completed.
    Still keep open communication with your child.

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